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Taocpa (talk|edits) said:

19 May 2008
Let me start off by saying "THANK YOU" for all your kind posts. They mean so much to me. I am humbled by your thoughts, prayers and concern.

Besides an update, I am going on a small rant. Some personal, but some aimed at rude people. I don't consider anyone here like that. It's just observations I had when I was out and about.

I took some time from posting given my recent events so I could reflect. I also wasn't in the best of moods having just gotten out of the hospital and facing an avalanche of work. It was a hard week to say the least. My wife went away on a business trip and came home yesterday. It was good for her to be away so my sisters could clean the house and the clutter that has surrounded it for some time.

I went for physical therapy today. My physical therapist guided me through my hip replacement. When she heard I was coming back and what happened, she cleared her calendar for me. She's so nice and besides, drop-dead gorgeous. No former East German swimmer there. She told me that given what happened, my symptoms were very mild. She thinks that 3 months is a good prognosis for full strength.

I am feeling much better over the last couple of days. I am now getting my head back into my work. It's a huge adjustment being "healthy" one moment and the next, life seems to get sucked right out of you.

The overall issue with this is you just generally get tired. My legs feel like jelly after going at it for a while. I am someone who has run for years. That's the worst part. Sometimes I walk a bunch of feet and next I am walking sideways and I have enough strength to get to the recliner. Ugh.

I ventured to Mass yesterday, they were praying over those who were ill. Well, that included my dad and I. Turns out Dad had some tests done while I was in the hospital and has 75% blockages in his carotid arteries (here's the ironic part: my dad eats really healthy. I was shocked). But there were people who had cancer and worse physical ailments and I didn't feel I belonged there because so many others are suffering worse than I am. I got off easy for the moment.

After reflection, I realize this became a wake-up call. Life's too complicated to begin with anyway, but why make it more so? So, this morning actually had breakfast together and while it got tense, I told her we were going to re-evaluate our situation, get rid of some of our outside activities, say "NO" and mean it and do more things away from the home.

One thing that got to me after my release from the hospital was how inconsiderate some people were overall. I grew up with a grandparent in a wheelchair. We used to joke about it and I was always pushing her here and there, but grew up to respect those with limited mobility. Now that I have a cane for the time being, I can't move as fast as I used to for right now and I practically was knocked over many times in a couple of grocery stores. One place I had to wait in a lobby with 12-15 chairs. All were occupied. Not one person could make eye contact or offer there seat. I stood for over 20 minutes and my legs were getting very tired and I toughed it out as best I could. All of these individuals were more than able to stand. I was stunned. I was brought up that you give up your seat when someone has a cane, walker or is elderly unless one is readily available. I am not trying to sound selfish, but if an elderly person walked in, I am sure no one would have gotten up. I couldn't believe it. And since the owner of the business is an old friend and client, she won't be happy to hear about what happened.

That's about it. Thanks for the time and I will talk with you soon.

And by the way Fred, I'm still waiting.....

Tom

CrowJD (talk|edits) said:

20 May 2008
Hey Tom, try some meditation too. I use a guided meditation CD by Kelly Howell "Revitalize Mind, Body & Spirit", just to provide some structure to mine. I am the type that get's bored doing it myself, and I'm likely to get up to do something, or to fall asleep!

It's available at Barnes & Noble, and probably Border's too (or it can be ordered).

Meditation is proven to be cummulative. It will normalize stress response chemicals in your body, mainly cortisol. Evens out the flight or fight response we all have, lowers or normalizes blood pressure. Hey man, don't I sound like a new ager? Seriously, it's medically proven to work. It also gives you a good excuse to say "Leave me absolutely alone for a while".

Glad things are looking up.

Belle (talk|edits) said:

May 20, 2008
Fred's too busy trying to get his efiles to go thru (see Tax Discussions) to attend properly to his 'Hooters Patrol' duties.

I'm sorry to hear folks were rude and inconsiderate to you Tom; even more sorry to NOT be surprised... There's no excuse, but it seems to be more & more the norm. Karma will get them tho; that's the thought that keeps me smiling. As well as all your good Karma is going to help you thru this in style.

We are still sending positive vibes in your direction; please keep us posted.

Fsteincpa (talk|edits) said:

21 May 2008
Just so you know, in your weakened condition, when that doorbell rings at your home office and there are a pair, of hooters girls bearing wings and you almost kill yourself laughing and smiling and then your wife comes out and bops you with a pan, just remember, you wanted it.

and as belle so eloquently says. na na na na nana

Belle (talk|edits) said:

May 21, 2008
WRONG Fred, I said neener, neener, neeeeener. na na na na nana was Jim putting words in my mouth.

And Tom, make sure there are pictures taken for our cyber bulletin board.

Natalie (talk|edits) said:

May 21, 2008
I still maintain laughter is he best medicine, and you're bound to get a bunch of it here, Tom.

So, no more excuses Fred. Do they still do Candid Camera?

Taocpa (talk|edits) said:

21 May 2008
Crow and all,

I've been talking to the Big Guy as much as I can. I also have CD's of very peaceful music I need to dig out. Funny thing, bagpipe music relaxes me as I grew up with listening to it because both my father and grandfather played. My grandfather was very accomplished at it. He was one of the best in his day.

Peace and serenity are definitely something we all could use. I do notice that when stress mounts right now, I can feel it more than I have in the past.

Overall, I do notice I feel much better but I overdid it yesterday. I posted a question here as I just couldn't get my head around the problem.

I need to find my digital camera soon before Fred's "friends" arrive.

Funny story about my hospital stay: they performed a spinal tap (shout out to one of my favorite movies!). Now for those who remember the television show "Emergency" (I realize I am dating myself, but I could care less), they had a "spinal tap" every so often. In the background, dramatic music would play, the doctor (Kelly Brackett, remember?) would look concerned, nurse Dixie would be looking gorgeous but glum and if the doctor made one wrong move......

So, my doctor walks in. He's fairly nonchalant, in his suit and tie. He then tells me everything he's going to do and I said, "Wait, where's the dramatic music?" He looks at me funny. I say, "Come on, Doc. Every time they did a spinal tap on 'Emergency', dramatic music's playing and you all look like the patient is about to die! Don't I get at least music?" "Um, no," came the reply. I told him I was being funny. He smirked and said, "Thanks for the warning."

Tom

Actionbsns (talk|edits) said:

21 May 2008
Tom, you're lucky you weren't at Seattle Grace getting a spinal tap. All the nurses and doctors around the table would be so totally distracted by their sexcapades and sweaty because you might be so lucky to have McDreamy standing there with the needle that you would have been lucky if they put the needle in the right place!! Oh and then there's the intern who failed his first program and they would probably give him the needle so he could get quality practice. THEN you would definitely get dramatic music.

I think Fred's Hooters Chicks would be far more beneficial than anything at the hospital.

Take care of yourself and keep us posted. All of us are thinking of you.

Fsteincpa (talk|edits) said:

21 May 2008
I'm not thinking of him, i'm thinking of the Hooter's Ladies <So chauvinistic to call them chicks> :-)

Natalie (talk|edits) said:

May 21, 2008
Fred, it's okay for a woman to refer to the Hooters Girls as "chicks."

Fsteincpa (talk|edits) said:

21 May 2008
Are you saying their is a double standard here dear? <EG>

Natalie (talk|edits) said:

May 22, 2008
Oh no, not at all. You see, we all know Action used the term in an innocent manner. I could go on about how some men use the term, but I think you're already aware of that.

Fsteincpa (talk|edits) said:

22 May 2008
I am sooooooooooooooooo innocent. I ooze with innocence.  ;-p

Natalie (talk|edits) said:

May 22, 2008
Do you have a guilty conscience Fred? We all know about your innocence (wink, wink).

Taocpa (talk|edits) said:

22 May 2008
Fred,

Innocent? You? I am not so sure.....

Well, I went to the neurologist today. They say I've responded well to the steroid treatments. That's the good news. I need more tests, another MRI and stuff. However, the long-term prognosis is still MS, however I most likely have the one that is intermittent.

I was surprised to hear that this was trolling around in my brain for some time, most likely years. There is absolutely no history of this in my family. They told me my attack was severe. Given the way I felt, I guess I am not surprised.

I have to confess it was hard to hear again today. I am doing my best to keep my head up and smiling. It's really hard to do right now. I know I have to and I am not going to let this define me.

Tom

RoyDaleOne (talk|edits) said:

22 May 2008
Tom,

My prayers are with you.

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